IBD Support


If you haven’t already, head on over to The Crohn’s Forum to check out my latest post for them about IBD Support.  It can be found here.

 

 

IIF-Never-Stay-Quiet

 

Now that you have come back, let me update you a little more.  Since the climb, I have done even more support for the IIF.  This past Wednesday, the IIF had their first support/meetup group.  I had helped in organizing it and getting it together.  Sadly there were only 3 IBDers that showed up, but it was a start.  And I do have to say that the people who did come were amazing.

One girl who came was 15 but looked 12.  I thought this group would be a little out of her league when I first saw her, but after she opened her mouth I was amazed.  Now, I feel that when you run a support group, you should be the inspirational person.  You should be the one to install confidence in others and help guide them on their journey.  However, I felt humbled when this girl spoke.  She was the bravest 15 yr old I have ever met and had the best outcome on life.  She clearly was not going to let IBD stop her from living.

Another person that was there was just the opposite.  He had never been to a support group before and was still a little new to IBD.  He hadn’t really opened up yet about it with others.  Thankfully, we all have been there so we were all comforting to him.  So much great advice flowed from us that I hope he feels a lot more confidence in living his life with IBD.

The third person that showed up was someone I convinced to come.  I met her on the climb and I wanted to have someone who was at a point in their life where they were comfortable with their IBD to really open up. I think her story is definitely a great one and I think she helped the others in understanding this damn disease  a little better.

This was the first group.  We will be having one every month and I already can’t wait for the next one.  Hopefully we will have more people there.  I love hearing the different stories and journeys people have taken.   If you are in the Northern New Jersey area, and want to attend, let me know.  I will give you all the information.

 

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The Inspirational Blogger Award


The Inspirational Blogger Award!

 

very inspiring blog award

  • Thank and link the amazing person who nominated you
  • List the rules and display the award
  • Share seven facts about yourself
  • Nominate fifteen other amazing blogs and remember to comment on their blogs to let them know you’ve nominated them. (provide a link to your post)
  • This rule is optional you can proudly display the award logo anywhere on your blog e.g. on your sidebar and also follow the blogger that nominated you.

So first,  a very big thank you to Meranda Roben O’Hara whose blog can be found here.  It is nice to be recognized by the community.  It even nicer to know that my blog is helping someone.  Meranda, I love your blog and find you just as inspirational.  Keep up the great work you are doing.

Seven Facts About Me:

  1. I was afraid of dogs before I got my little Sable.  She was only 4 lbs when we got her.  She was very scared of us and wouldn’t interact much in the beginning.  When she finally warmed up to us, she got in play stance and barked at me.  I got scared cause I thought she was angry and wanted to attack me.  4 1/2 years later, she is my little baby and I have no fears of her.  She has taught me many things about enjoying life.
  2. I had Crohn’s Disease for about 25 years before I really understood what I had and opened up to others.  I went through life pretty ignorant of what I had and just dealt with it.  It wasn’t until I went into my worst flare that I decided to go online and do research.
  3. I am very big into Star Trek.  I wouldn’t call myself a Trekkie or Trekker, but I know quite a bit about the franchise.  I have seen every TV episode and movie, more than once.
  4. I am gluten free.  2 years ago, I went gluten free to help with a flare and have never looked back.  It is now part of my life and has become another lifestyle that I preach.  You can check out recipes I am posting on my other blog, The Gluten Free Gluttonous Chef.
  5. I have been very lucky to meet some famous IBDers.  Sadly, they aren’t celebrities like Mike McCreedy, but are still big within our community.  I have gotten to meet Megan of TGBM, Sara from Inflammed and Untammed, Brian from Intense Intestines Foundation, and Frank Garufi Jr of The Crohn’s Colitis Effect, just to name a few.
  6. I am a trained chef.  I originally went to school to cook professionally and I have the degree to back it all up.  However, I couldn’t take the heat (literally) so I left the kitchen.  I do cook at home though and have tons of fun doing it.
  7. I have worked in almost every aspect of the hospitality industry.  I have worked in airports, hospitals, nursing homes, restaurants, quick service coffee shops, and hotels.  I have been both front of the house (dealing with customers direct) and back of the house (behind the scenes).

My Nominations

  1. My first nominations (and I think she doesn’t like these kind of awards) is Marisa from http://keepingthingsinsideisbadformyhealth.wordpress.com/.  Marisa, you are so inspiring to so many people.  Even though your advocacy is still young, you have gotten many people to not only listen to your story but open up about their own.  I know you still struggle, but that is all part of what makes you inspirational.  You speak from the heart and show us not only the good but the bad.
  2. Next is Jacquie from http://gutwrenchingtruthaboutcrohns.wordpress.com/.  Her blog is about her adventures with IBD.  She talks about the side effects which at some point we all experience but sometimes don’t want to talk about.
  3. Third is Amanda from http://warriorchick32.wordpress.com/.  I have gotten to know Amanda a little from our chats on Twitter.  Recently she was on a reality show on TLC called America’s Worst Tattoos.  Not only does she talk about her life with IBD, but also post’s recipes which always look so delicious.
  4. Fourth is Michelle from http://digestingmythoughts.com/.  Michelle talks about what it is like for a young adult to go through this horrible disease of IBD.
  5. Can’t forget my IBD brothers.  Fifth is Josh from http://jrobinjrob.wordpress.com/.  Reading an IBD blog from a guys point of view is rare.  It is always nice to hear it.  Josh is always trying to help educate others and I love that.
  6. Next, and I can’t forget her, is Sharon from http://www.ibdjourneys.com.  Sharon has been dealing with the negative parts of IBD for way to long.  Her site is a place where everyone can come together to talk about their IBD journey.
  7. Another wonderful person is Stacey from http://staceydearest.wordpress.com/.  She is another young adult and is from the heart of America.  She talks about her life with IBD.
  8. Shari from http://ihaveulcerativecolitis.wordpress.com/ is yet another inspirational person.  Her blog is about her life with UC and her stoma Fred.
  9. Another IBD brother I like is Rasheed from http://rasheedclarke.com/  Not only does he show how UC doesn’t have to stop you from doing things but he has also written a book of short stories.
  10. Of course, no list would be complete without mentioning Ryan of http://www.crohnsguy.com/.  This guy swam Lake Erie to raise awareness for IBD.  Lake Erie….one of the Great Lakes.  Just shows you that IBD won’t stop some people.
  11. Next, Mary Claire from http://www.resiliencyspace.com/.  Not only has she come along way in dealing with her disease, but she shows just how strong you can be with it (literally).

The last set of nominations were listed in my seven facts about me.

 

 

Guest post from James Patterson


My thanks to “AGUYWITHCROHNS” for letting me guest post on his website. I have had severe Crohn’s Disease for over 47 years with many surgeries, emergencies, medications, complications, emotional upsets and other issues that go along with living with a chronic disease for decades. I have learned and developed various tools to handle both the physical and emotional/mental symptoms. Recently I compiled some of this information and wrote a book about it titled “Living with the Bully of Crohn’s Disease” that is available on Amazon in both Kindle and paperback formats. My hope in writing the book was that others could learn from my experiences; both the mistakes I made and the good choices that helped me to heal.

I thought I would use this blog opportunity to write about one statement I hear discussed by many fellow Crohn’s patients. It is “I wish things could get back to the way they were (Pre-Crohn’s)”. This thought was also my own for many years and I expressed it regularly. However, over time, I learned to modify how I work with this thought and this has helped me handle the associated mental and emotional pain.

The idea of “wanting things to get back to the way they were” is a very common statement I make to myself as I experience various losses in my life. This could be the loss of a loved one, the loss of a job, the loss of my youth, the loss of respect when I humiliate myself by doing something stupid, the loss of a relationship, and of course the loss of my health with Crohn’s disease. In all of these situations, I perceived that things were better before the event and worse after the event. Thus I wish things could go back to the way they were.

However the reality is that in most cases, things have generally changed forever. There is no turning back the clock. This reality can set me off into a mental funk of depression, anger or fear. These irritating emotions further exacerbate my health and even if the situation has nothing to do with Crohn’s, my poor response to bad news creates more stress and makes my Crohn’s worse. So what do I do to handle this highly irritating thought or reality that “things have changed forever”.

  1. I first realize that change is a part of life. We all go through it and it is inevitable. Thus I am not being singled out as a victim due to change. In the case of Crohn’s, one can argue that I did not ask for it and it is not fair and thus I am a victim. My answer is that I did not ask for it but then many other people do not ask for diabetes, arthritis, depression, heart disease, bad menstrual cramps, or chronic pain. In fact most people have at least some part of their physical or mental health that gives them some grief. Thus I have learned to accept that I am not being singled out by having Crohn’s and life is not punishing me as it does not punish the millions of other people who have an ailment. This realization helps me to better accept the presence of Crohn’s in my life.
  2. I recognize that even if I am stuck with a difficult ailment, I can work on it. I can look at better medical options by pursuing new treatments, finding a new doctor, looking at new options for handling my mental consternation or taking up new mental programs that help relax and nourish me. I do not have to simply “take it” but instead I can work at my health and make it better. I have also learned there is more to being healthy then simply a healthy body. I know many angry and bitter people and I would not consider them to be healthy even though they have no physical issues.
  3. In the past I have equated change with disaster. This has not been true and it took me decades to figure this out. I felt that with Crohn’s my life was going to be minimized and full of unrelenting pain and struggles. However, I can speak from experience and say that my life has been full of great relationships, a nourishing career, many comforts of home, and a deeper appreciation of the gifts I have in my life. While I have learned to accommodate the Bully of Crohn’s disease, I have found many joyous and fulfilling events that have been meaningful. In fact, living with a nasty disease like Crohn’s has caused me to truly appreciate life’s gifts.
  4. I have taken stock and realized that even with Crohn’s disease; I have many strengths and skills to draw upon. I have built a good mind full of courage, stamina, joy, peace, and creative thought. I also have a good working heart, kidneys, lungs and brain. All of these are with me even after the diagnosis of Crohn’s and are areas of my life that I can build on and work with to express the life I want. I am much more than Crohn’s disease with an inflamed piece of bowel. Crohn’s is a part of me but does not define me.
  5. Crohn’s requires me to accommodate its bullying nature. When it screams and yells via its painful bowel expressions or bleeding, I need to pay attention and accommodate it while doing my best to help it heal. This is what I do on a stormy day as I come indoors and need to take some time and let the storm pass. While accommodating these challenging times may not be my heart’s desire, I can live with it. There are many difficult times in my life with both relationships and work that I would rather avoid but that is part of living. I can learn new skills to handle challenging life events and help ameliorate these challenging times. As I do this work, I realize there are many gifts in the garden of my life that nourish me and I can live with a few weeds.
  6. In the past, I have used these times of Crohn’s flare to yell and cuss my misfortune and this has never helped me. Instead it has only made me feel worse. My desire to hate this disease and fight it puts me on the defensive and creates even more internal turmoil. I have learned to treat Crohn’s as a wounded part of me and give it my kind, thoughtful, loving and nurturing attention. My bowel did not do anything wrong; it is just sick. It does not deserve my wrath and anger; it deserves my warm caring attitude. For in effect as I yell and curse the disease within me, I am cursing and yelling at a part of me. The net effect is I just feel worse. Thus I treat Crohn’s as I would a sick child that I Love and do all I can to help it heal. This type of relationship has helped me to better handle the ups and downs of the disease. I now see myself as a healer of my sick body versus a fighter of something within me that did nothing wrong.

I wish “AGUYWITHCROHNS” and all others who read this the very best in the years ahead. I am confident and can speak from experience that while the future might be different then what you planned, life can be rich and rewarding.

 

James book can be found here and I would recommend getting a copy.  It is a great read.

http://www.amazon.com/Living-Bully-Crohns-Disease-Patterson/dp/1495415759/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1399235990&sr=8-1&keywords=Living+with+the+Bully+of+Crohn%E2%80%99s+Disease

Living With The Bully of Crohns Disease